Wealth is a lot more than just having a bank account with a large balance. In fact, wealth cannot have once specific meaning. I think wealth has to have a multitude of meanings. It is the idea of what we have on the external, yes. But what does it represent WITHIN you? What we have internally and how we label and define it lead to our wealth.
I have a beautiful daughter, Claire. She is an amazing little girl who brings abundance, love, and laughter into my life on a daily basis. From the time I see her in the morning until the moment I kiss her goodnight, my life is filled with love I never knew before.
When Kathy was pregnant with Claire, I knew my life was going to change in a big way. Kathy said that she felt I wasn’t really on board with her during the pregnancy, and that did cause some stress for her. I tried to explain how my being on board was working hard and ensuring that we had finances to allow me to spend more time with the baby after she was born. I know a lot of fathers who probably understand what I was feeling – that shift in responsibility looming overhead.
But there was another thing looming, too, and it was something more critical. It was more than securing our future financially by working hard. And what I found out by pursuing this wealth secured my future in other ways.
I knew that being a father was going to give me a wealth of emotion. And when it gets right down to it, that’s what weath really is. Joy, love, peace, happiness, understanding – all that we consider wealth to be comes from an emotional viewpoint.
When you get a new car that you have been dreaming of for years and you sit in it for the first time, you experience an emotion.
But this little girl, my daughter Claire, was going to change my experience. I knew before she was born that if I wanted to experience the wealth of emotion she afforded me, I had to do something to open up, expand my emotional playing field. I knew I had to do this, and I wanted to. I wanted to give my child more than what I had, but in order to do so, I had to give myself more than I was allowing myself.
I started looking for places in my life where I had wealth to mine. One area was my voice. People had told me for years that I had a great voice. One of my primary areas of generating wealth and giving to others was with my voice. I loved to sing, but often wouldn’t do it. When I sang, I would become very emotional. It got to the point where I wouldn’t sing because the emotions that came through me were more than I could handle.
It was WEALTH that I couldn’t handle. When Kathy became pregnant, I started taking singing lessons. First, I wanted to improve my singing voice. But more importantly, I wanted to open myself up to allow myself to feel the emotions coming through me. I knew if I was blocking the emotions coming through my voice, I was blocking myself in other areas as well. And with Claire on the way, I couldn’t afford to live with those blocks any longer.
I know that when I feel that opening in my chest that is more love, it is extraordinarily beautiful. Something flows through there. From this vantage point, I can’t believe I blocked that for myself for so long. But from here, I am grateful I took the risk to do something uncomfortable because I now have more love to give my daughter.
And I have more love to give my wife.
Now, when I sit and play with my daughter, I often sing to her. She loves it. She lights up and even sings along with me.
Now that I have opened that part of myself and allowed what was there to flow, I can share it without having to sing to connect with that wealth within me.
Could you put a price tag on that? Could you sell it?
But that’s what wealth is.
What area of your life do you block wealth? Where is your biggest gift, the place where you feel emotion? Is there something you can do today to begin the sometimes uncomfortable task of allowing that wealth to come forward?
How will your life change by taking that step?