Comments for Mark J. Ryan Blog http://www.markjryan.com/blog Personal and spiritual development for proactive people. Wed, 18 Jan 2012 17:40:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Moving through blocks by Steve http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2012/01/moving-through-blocks/comment-page-1/#comment-751 Steve Wed, 18 Jan 2012 17:40:06 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=436#comment-751 Great read. Hope all is well. It makes me think of the hardest Ho'oponopono concept to grasp is taking personal responsibility for everything that happens to you. We have all dealt with, well lack of a better term, assholes who make it hard to think we brought them to ourselves. It's easy to blame them and stay mad instead of taking responsibility and getting over it. As men, I think it's even harder to blame ourselves sometimes when we KNOW its the other guys fault!! Great read.

Hope all is well.

It makes me think of the hardest Ho’oponopono concept to grasp is taking personal responsibility for everything that happens to you. We have all dealt with, well lack of a better term, assholes who make it hard to think we brought them to ourselves. It’s easy to blame them and stay mad instead of taking responsibility and getting over it.

As men, I think it’s even harder to blame ourselves sometimes when we KNOW its the other guys fault!!

]]> Comment on Moving through blocks by Mark J Ryan http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2012/01/moving-through-blocks/comment-page-1/#comment-741 Mark J Ryan Fri, 13 Jan 2012 17:06:23 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=436#comment-741 Thomas, thanks for sharing your perspective. I've found lots of inspiration in physical movement and activity that applies to so many other parts of life. Our bodies and our minds are not that far apart! The only quick solution is through the mind, when that one decision is made that makes any other choice impossible. That decision point is the fulcrum of power, from which all action happens most easily. My work has been helping people find and leverage that fulcrum. In finding it ourselves, we often have to meander through beliefs and attitudes. Doing so using movement helps create a different vantage point... the same vantage point another person can provide. The problem, as you encountered with your friend, is that most people aren't always open to hearing different viewpoints and vantage points from other people. They think they can figure it out themselves. Once we find that point of power, we still have to do the work. Physical reflection of new beliefs takes time. There is no "easy button," but unraveling beliefs and attitudes certainly removes many obstacles towards that end. Thanks again. Mark Thomas, thanks for sharing your perspective. I’ve found lots of inspiration in physical movement and activity that applies to so many other parts of life. Our bodies and our minds are not that far apart!

The only quick solution is through the mind, when that one decision is made that makes any other choice impossible. That decision point is the fulcrum of power, from which all action happens most easily. My work has been helping people find and leverage that fulcrum. In finding it ourselves, we often have to meander through beliefs and attitudes. Doing so using movement helps create a different vantage point… the same vantage point another person can provide.

The problem, as you encountered with your friend, is that most people aren’t always open to hearing different viewpoints and vantage points from other people. They think they can figure it out themselves.

Once we find that point of power, we still have to do the work. Physical reflection of new beliefs takes time. There is no “easy button,” but unraveling beliefs and attitudes certainly removes many obstacles towards that end.

Thanks again.

Mark

]]> Comment on Moving through blocks by Thomas http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2012/01/moving-through-blocks/comment-page-1/#comment-740 Thomas Thu, 12 Jan 2012 20:24:35 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=436#comment-740 Mark Its ironic how I was contemplating something today that applies to what you've said. I used to have this friend who reminds me of how most go through life. All or nothing, and like chickens racing around with their heads cut off. No focus or discipline to speak of. It's understandable considering all the distractions we have in our society. Going back to my friend as an example. He wined about having to loose weight. Tried everything under the sun just like millions of others who buy into the hype with the quick fix solution's that never work. I tried setting the example but he was so blinded by the snake oil salesman that he just couldn't see it. I've been weight training since I was 18, and I'm 54 now. I may get off track but one of the things I never gave much thought to until recently became a part of my life. Even my sensei asked me how I train. At the time I couldn't answer him, but I can now. Simple put one foot in front of the other. Very basic stuff, over and over again, until I mastered it and then I'd go right back to the basics once more, lol. I've been wanting a career change these past few years. I love art and photography, always have, and I'm applying the same principals and staying focused on the basics, with one step at a time. Mark

Its ironic how I was contemplating something today that applies to what you’ve said. I used to have this friend who reminds me of how most go through life. All or nothing, and like chickens racing around with their heads cut off. No focus or discipline to speak of. It’s understandable considering all the distractions we have in our society.

Going back to my friend as an example. He wined about having to loose weight. Tried everything under the sun just like millions of others who buy into the hype with the quick fix solution’s that never work. I tried setting the example but he was so blinded by the snake oil salesman that he just couldn’t see it.

I’ve been weight training since I was 18, and I’m 54 now. I may get off track but one of the things I never gave much thought to until recently became a part of my life. Even my sensei asked me how I train. At the time I couldn’t answer him, but I can now. Simple put one foot in front of the other. Very basic stuff, over and over again, until I mastered it and then I’d go right back to the basics once more, lol.

I’ve been wanting a career change these past few years. I love art and photography, always have, and I’m applying the same principals and staying focused on the basics, with one step at a time.

]]> Comment on Poked by Broken Pieces by Gail Kidd http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2011/09/poked-by-broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-710 Gail Kidd Fri, 23 Sep 2011 14:09:24 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=413#comment-710 While reading all this.. The news on TV was talking about the problem of bulling, so severe as to cause people to kill themselves..This mean spirited action is out there certainly in politics. and society.Perhaps, you and Joe, are just a part of what we ALL need to Heal .in ourselves Using more.Kindness, and an the willingness to look for SOLUTIONS instead of meanness., as a solution.Imagine all those political leaders and the way they act toward one another.A.SHAMEFUL example for our children..What happened to those"LEADERS".? .Thank You Kathy, and Mark...I am glad Kathy is so HAPPY at MT SHASTA..Lots of us out here would like to say that.. we were so Happy were we lived.MANY BLESSINGS GAIL While reading all this.. The news on TV was talking about the problem of bulling, so severe as to cause people to kill themselves..This mean spirited action is out there certainly in politics. and society.Perhaps, you and Joe, are just a part of what we ALL need to Heal .in ourselves Using more.Kindness, and an the willingness to look for SOLUTIONS instead of meanness., as a solution.Imagine all those political leaders and the way they act toward one another.A.SHAMEFUL example for our children..What happened to those”LEADERS”.? .Thank You Kathy, and Mark…I am glad Kathy is so HAPPY at MT SHASTA..Lots of us out here would like to say that.. we were so Happy were we lived.MANY BLESSINGS GAIL

]]> Comment on Poked by Broken Pieces by Mark J Ryan http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2011/09/poked-by-broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-709 Mark J Ryan Fri, 23 Sep 2011 02:06:32 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=413#comment-709 Thanks, Fred! That one just kinda came out. I love it when writing works like that. - K Thanks, Fred! That one just kinda came out. I love it when writing works like that. – K

]]> Comment on Poked by Broken Pieces by Mark J Ryan http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2011/09/poked-by-broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-708 Mark J Ryan Fri, 23 Sep 2011 02:05:24 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=413#comment-708 Manuel - yes, thanks for your comment. I think when we're really stuck, ho'oponopono opens the gates. And then it can make the process of getting to our true spiritual self much easier. Glad you liked Mark's podcasts from back in the day. Lots of great information there, too! - K Manuel – yes, thanks for your comment. I think when we’re really stuck, ho’oponopono opens the gates. And then it can make the process of getting to our true spiritual self much easier. Glad you liked Mark’s podcasts from back in the day. Lots of great information there, too! – K

]]> Comment on Poked by Broken Pieces by Mark J Ryan http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2011/09/poked-by-broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-707 Mark J Ryan Fri, 23 Sep 2011 02:04:10 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=413#comment-707 It's like someone telling you to read a book about love versus falling in love. Falling in love is a lot different than thinking about it. :) Glad you liked the post. Inspired by Mark, of course. - K It’s like someone telling you to read a book about love versus falling in love. Falling in love is a lot different than thinking about it. :) Glad you liked the post. Inspired by Mark, of course. – K

]]> Comment on Poked by Broken Pieces by Chuck Davis http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2011/09/poked-by-broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-706 Chuck Davis Thu, 22 Sep 2011 21:39:01 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=413#comment-706 Kathy, thank you for such an insightful blog post. I love how you point out that healing must sometimes be experienced. We need to go through it. We can not avoid it, slip around it or jump over it. It is painful and scary when we look at it from the view of the wounded and still bleeding but once we see it from the side of the healed and whole, we realize how cathartic it really was. Colin Tipping in his book "Radical Forgiveness," tells about how we need to go into the experience and through it so that we can experience it, be healed from it and move into a place where we realize this was for our own good and not only move into forgiveness but celebrate the learning we got from the whole experience. In co-active coaching which I am trained in, we take clients into the process and down the tube to experience what we need to before we are brought up the tube and into being healed and whole. Thanks again for the reminder. It must be something I need, as it is coming up all over the place. Kathy, thank you for such an insightful blog post. I love how you point out that healing must sometimes be experienced. We need to go through it. We can not avoid it, slip around it or jump over it. It is painful and scary when we look at it from the view of the wounded and still bleeding but once we see it from the side of the healed and whole, we realize how cathartic it really was. Colin Tipping in his book “Radical Forgiveness,” tells about how we need to go into the experience and through it so that we can experience it, be healed from it and move into a place where we realize this was for our own good and not only move into forgiveness but celebrate the learning we got from the whole experience. In co-active coaching which I am trained in, we take clients into the process and down the tube to experience what we need to before we are brought up the tube and into being healed and whole. Thanks again for the reminder. It must be something I need, as it is coming up all over the place.

]]> Comment on Poked by Broken Pieces by Mark J Ryan http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2011/09/poked-by-broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-705 Mark J Ryan Thu, 22 Sep 2011 20:47:33 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=413#comment-705 Kathy here: Mark, I think you and Joe have very different views on what ho'oponopono is and how it operates. You work much more in the realm of experiential healing... meaning that you help people experience that opening of healing. Joe admitted even back when he was introducing ho'oponopono that he wanted an "easy button" and that's why he liked ho'oponopono. He believed the repetition of the 4 statements (I love you, please forgive me, thank you, I'm sorry) would magically cure any ill. I think your perspective is that the repetition of the 4 statements opens people, softens people, for a greater healing, but that the greater healing needs to come from an EXPERIENCE of healing, rather than a magic "easy button." An easy life is not a victorious life," says Yogananda... and I think it's apparent we're here for the experience of uncovering our true selves rather than intellectualizing an understanding of what our true selves might be. If it's not about the experience of healing, why experience life at all... our spiritual selves know. Our intellect can "get it." But experience and feeling happens kinesthetically in a body, and being alive necessitates a body. :) From my perspective, Joe did not want to experience healing with you unless it was you groveling on your knees admitting how wrong you were to question his decisions 2 years ago. That's my opinion. I will say that Joe did reach out to you when he realized something was wrong. I think you emailed him shortly thereafter... and it was apparent in those emails what actions and beliefs needed to exist in order for healing to happen on Joe's terms only. Again, just an opinion, and that's about all I will say publicly about it. I will say I am very happy to be in Mount Shasta, happier than I have ever been anywhere else on earth. Kathy here: Mark, I think you and Joe have very different views on what ho’oponopono is and how it operates. You work much more in the realm of experiential healing… meaning that you help people experience that opening of healing. Joe admitted even back when he was introducing ho’oponopono that he wanted an “easy button” and that’s why he liked ho’oponopono. He believed the repetition of the 4 statements (I love you, please forgive me, thank you, I’m sorry) would magically cure any ill.

I think your perspective is that the repetition of the 4 statements opens people, softens people, for a greater healing, but that the greater healing needs to come from an EXPERIENCE of healing, rather than a magic “easy button.” An easy life is not a victorious life,” says Yogananda… and I think it’s apparent we’re here for the experience of uncovering our true selves rather than intellectualizing an understanding of what our true selves might be. If it’s not about the experience of healing, why experience life at all… our spiritual selves know. Our intellect can “get it.” But experience and feeling happens kinesthetically in a body, and being alive necessitates a body. :)

From my perspective, Joe did not want to experience healing with you unless it was you groveling on your knees admitting how wrong you were to question his decisions 2 years ago. That’s my opinion. I will say that Joe did reach out to you when he realized something was wrong. I think you emailed him shortly thereafter… and it was apparent in those emails what actions and beliefs needed to exist in order for healing to happen on Joe’s terms only. Again, just an opinion, and that’s about all I will say publicly about it.

I will say I am very happy to be in Mount Shasta, happier than I have ever been anywhere else on earth.

]]> Comment on Poked by Broken Pieces by Mark J. Ryan http://www.markjryan.com/blog/2011/09/poked-by-broken-pieces/comment-page-1/#comment-704 Mark J. Ryan Thu, 22 Sep 2011 20:37:07 +0000 http://www.markjryan.com/blog/?p=413#comment-704 Yes this is a great post! Thanks for writing this up Kathy you did a wonderful Job and i think it resonates deeply with people. A back and forth of Amazing emails transpired today between me and the provider from Elance. The first one was at the EXACT same time ( ok for you mathematicians...maybe not exact...but close enough) as she sent me one. As i sent it hers popped up...and it was basically both of us agreeing to resolve this...How cool! Then the emails got even deeper. Something really nice has opened up. It has been a long road and the whole time i kept this place of healing and opening...even when i was being a butt-hole. I was really cool to watch the patterns in me. Especially the ones i thought had healed...Ha! Their bigger brother was waiting in the wings. Keep the faith even when you are screaming and kicking like a kid sometimes...try to watch it without stopping it. As far as the part about me having people who really don't like me...Rubbish! Well at least i like to think that way. Kathy had an old nemesis of mine( online only..never met him) write her and try to tell her there was no good side of me. He is a Nasty fellow really with his own HUGE fears and blocks. I understand a bit better...and will let him go his way as i want to rest in the wonderful shift that has occurred today. It is one of those you hope for every day. I posted blog on Linda Miller's Ho'oponopono Facebook page with a semi- Challenge for Joe Vitale. Here are two guys ( Me and Joe) who brought Ho'oponopono to another level of awareness in the world. We have had a Bitter unresolved conflict for 2 years and have not talked for two years. Maybe the reason i had trouble with the provider who was writing a book from my transcripts was that Something doesn't want me to be a Hypocrite....Something i am personally not fond of. How do i or Joe do another Ho'oponopono product when there is a rift between us? Let me go way out there....is it possible Ho'oponopono is not moving forward the way it could because of this rift between Joe and Myself? I am interested to hear your thoughts! Enjoy! Mark PS I will be starting a new round of podcasting ( free audio teachings ) and video-casting hopefully around mid October when i get done with the current project i am on Yes this is a great post! Thanks for writing this up Kathy you did a wonderful Job and i think it resonates deeply with people.

A back and forth of Amazing emails transpired today between me and the provider from Elance. The first one was at the EXACT same time ( ok for you mathematicians…maybe not exact…but close enough) as she sent me one. As i sent it hers popped up…and it was basically both of us agreeing to resolve this…How cool!

Then the emails got even deeper. Something really nice has opened up.
It has been a long road and the whole time i kept this place of healing and opening…even when i was being a butt-hole. I was really cool to watch the patterns in me. Especially the ones i thought had healed…Ha! Their bigger brother was waiting in the wings.

Keep the faith even when you are screaming and kicking like a kid sometimes…try to watch it without stopping it.

As far as the part about me having people who really don’t like me…Rubbish! Well at least i like to think that way.
Kathy had an old nemesis of mine( online only..never met him) write her and try to tell her there was no good side of me.
He is a Nasty fellow really with his own HUGE fears and blocks. I understand a bit better…and will let him go his way as i want to rest in the wonderful shift that has occurred today. It is one of those you hope for every day.

I posted blog on Linda Miller’s Ho’oponopono Facebook page with a semi- Challenge for Joe Vitale.

Here are two guys ( Me and Joe) who brought Ho’oponopono to another level of awareness in the world.
We have had a Bitter unresolved conflict for 2 years and have not talked for two years.
Maybe the reason i had trouble with the provider who was writing a book from my transcripts was that Something doesn’t want me to be a Hypocrite….Something i am personally not fond of.
How do i or Joe do another Ho’oponopono product when there is a rift between us?
Let me go way out there….is it possible Ho’oponopono is not moving forward the way it could because of this rift between Joe and Myself?

I am interested to hear your thoughts!

Enjoy!

Mark

PS I will be starting a new round of podcasting ( free audio teachings ) and video-casting hopefully around mid October when i get done with the current project i am on

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