Here is a video meditation on trusting again after your trust has been broken.

Here’s a video I did sharing my perspective on successful entrepreneurship.

Blocks. We all experience them. You want something, and something comes up and makes it seem impossible. That something can be real or imagined.

The want comes from deep within you. Desire for something; it’s the knowledge that you came to this reality to Do Something Big. Part of the process is moving beyond whatever is holding you in the space you currently reside.

Maybe you want to be a successful author. You imagine what the critics might say. It stops you.

Maybe you want to be thinner, but you imagine all of the diets that have never worked.

Maybe you want to own your dream home, but you cannot see how that could ever happen to a person like you.

Or maybe you’re really trying to write that book, but it’s not flowing. Or maybe it flows, but you have a friend read your first draft, and you get a disappointing review.

Maybe you’re trying to complete a project, but you can’t find the right subcontractor to help you finish the last bit of work. Or maybe the subcontractor you thought would do a great job messes up the job beyond repair.

Maybe you can’t get funding no matter where you look for the non-profit close to your heart.

Or maybe you just don’t know what is happening or why, but you just feel stuck. And that desire and knowledge of what you came here to do is just not going away.

Worse, maybe there’s actually someone out there who is out to get you and undermine your success any way he can. Someone who might be acting insidiously with the rage of fire and brimstone to ensure you are never able to do be successful with it. It has happened.

Even if you’ve got the cards stacked against you and a small army of detractors against you, it is no match whatsoever against the creative power of your flow. It is no match for the creative energy within you. Your work will stand on its own merit and attract those who want to hear what you have to say.

Of course, you could become embroiled in the discord. You could allow a war of words to become the most important part of your reality. You could allow the war of fear inside of you to become more powerful than your own creative flow.

When you allow the critics — inside and out — to have that much power over you, then you lose your voice. Spirit moves to a more open and pliable channel. And you become the biggest loser.

“The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love, and to be greater than our suffering.” —Ben Okri

You may suffer, but you also have the power to be greater than that suffering. Commitment to the idea, the spirit, and the energy that flows through you is the power that is greater than anything that comes your way.

So how do you get beyond it?

There are quite a few tricks I’ve learned. You see, I’ve had a little of all of the above happen to me to some degree or another during my lifetime. Some things have been even worse than the maybe’s above.

If you’re stuck in a place of non-movement, here are some tips to get beyond your blocks.

Get moving. Sometimes when you’re stuck, the best thing to do is get moving. On something, anything. If you can’t move on your project, go for a walk. Don’t bring the iPod, let silence guide you to the still voice within yourself. If you can’t move mentally, sometimes the best thing to do is send a message to your mind that you are ready to move by moving your body.

Change the scenery. You can also get a change of scenery… go to a place different than where you are. Pick a place at random a few hours from where you are. If you have kids, pack them and a lunch and just go. Find a place where you can easily walk or hike in nature. Movement in a place far away from your usual stomping grounds creates a new perspective and movement within your spirit that will break you from a rut or block.

Turn off the internet. The internet browser is a great place to meet people and make connections, but it can also be a giant procrastination time suck and distraction away from the things that block you. Download an alternative browser (firefox, chrome, etc). Use one browser for productive work and research, use another for play. If you have two computers, use one as your work computer and another as your production computer. Set yourself a time and a time limit for play online, but the rest of your day is dedicated to production. Don’t check Facebook every 20 minutes.

Do something around the house. Sweep the floor, organize a file. Sometimes just clearing some clutter is enough to get you moving and feeling productive. That productive feeling then can be transferred towards your creative flow.

Feeling more energized? Feel like you might be able to do something now? Are you still churning on something that’s bothering you? If you’re getting some hardcore emotional things coming up that physical movement isn’t helping to clear, then you may need to turn your attention to your emotions.

If you’re angry, it may have helped to channel that angry energy into physical activity. I’ve found anger and anxiety are especially remedied by organizing and cleaning.

Chunk it down. Once you’re ready to do something, do something small but important. Don’t add to your stress by taking on a massive project and attempting to do it all at once. Break it down into workable steps. Make a list, and prioritize the action items. Do one thing that you know you can do, that you know is important.

Ask for help. Whether you ask your higher self, a guide, a friend, a relative, or a mentor, help is available to you. You are never as alone as you think you are, even in your darkest hour. Be persistent in seeking the help you need.

Above all, be patient. If you were delayed on a trip, and that delay meant you missed an opportunity for an accident, you’d be grateful for the delay… if only you knew. Sometimes a setback is happening for a reason you cannot understand or comprehend. A delay or block might be exactly what you need in order for other events to line up in a more perfect manner.

Persistence pays off. Some people advocate looking for the easiest way to do something. Sometimes the hardest way pays off more. The more blocks you can break through, the more fears you can dissipate, and the more challenges you can meet, the more you will succeed where others have given up.

I was watching my daughter learn how to jump on to our bed last night. It’s too tall for her… but she kept at it. She failed a LOT more times than she succeeded in the beginning. I helped her a few times. And then, something clicked for her and she made it up quite a few times in a row on her own. Her persistence paid off. From her perspective, she had many blocks to achieving this seemingly small feat, including her very valid fear of falling.

While achieving your goals of expressing your highest ideal is a reward, you’ll find a greater reward in confronting and overcoming any block that appears to stand in your way. Whether real or imagined, they’re part of the illusion we’re playing in.

My Subliminal Clearing: Z+ Advanced Ho’oponopono program talks about these illusions. It’s helped many people move past blocks and discover their power from a higher level. I’ll have more information on clearing blocks using the latest state-of-the-art techniques soon.

When you visit Mexico, you’ll learn to say, “No, gracias.” You’ll need to say it… A LOT.

In the United States, people beg for handouts. In Mexico, people beg you to buy something from them. You can either ignore them, or you can say, “No, gracias.” The Mexican vendors are quite good at catching your attention. They’re smiling, engaging, and asking great questions to bring your awareness to what they’re selling.

At first, I felt terrible for saying no so much. While I can be quite a smart aleck, I also consider myself a healer. Being nice to people is a part of who I am. Saying no abruptly and walking away felt uncomfortable. Discomfort is a sign that I can learn and get past some of my possibly limiting beliefs about myself, and learn to become more flexible. When I was younger, I didn’t like these uncomfortable feelings. Now, I relish the opportunity they present to grow.

As I walked down the street, I wanted to say “yes” to the smiling, inviting people, but I also knew if I was going to make it down the street for a quick lunch and back to work quickly, I would have to say, “No gracias,” many times.

I did it. And I didn’t like it.

Why did I feel bad? These people were infringing on my space as I walked down the street. It should have been easy to say no. I sat with it… walked with it… saying “No, gracias,” many times.

It wasn’t long before a little girl about 7 came up to my table at the restaurant with some toys around her wrist and blew this little whistle and said $1 please. There were signs all around that said please do not give the children money, as it encourages them and it is something Mexico is trying to stop. As I looked at her in the eyes, my heart was pulled. It’s only a dollar, I thought. And then i heard my friend Oh Be who was sitting across from me say, “No Gracias” and she looked at him and her sweet look turned sour on him and then she looked back at me with those eyes. I heard myself say “No Gracias” and her look turned sour on me as she walked away. This kid at 7 was already a pro… “nothing, personal mister.” I was thankful for her sour look as it made the rejection I passed her way a bit easier. She wasn’t going to be devastated by my rejection.

I considered why this bothered me so much, and what I came up with was that I really thought these folks would be devastated by my “no.”

Here was an illusion, my fantasy that i was torturing myself with. It wasn’t true. I realized I was projecting past instances in which I had devastated someone by a rejection into the present situation.

How cool I get to now get over this and get a more healthy view of what “No” means. At the same time, I don’t want to become like some people I know who take pleasure in “No” and rejecting people. I would have 17 days to find my happy medium in this live classroom of Cabo San Lucas, Mexico.

It became much easier to say no or just ignore the most aggressive people. It even became easier to say no to the children.

One of the challenges I gave myself was to figure out how to say “Yes” while saying “No”.

It was easier with the kids…it always is isn’t it.

My practice was to look at them deeply as the spiritual being that they are… lovingly with a smile and verbally say “No.” However, my challenge was to hold them in a spiritual place and say “Yes.” In a sense I was saying no and wrapping it in a great big “Yes” acknowledging them for who they really are.

While a bit more difficult with the adults…i decided to start with fun. I would say ” No Gracias” while waving my hands with the gestyre of “No” well before I even got close to them and they had started their presentation to me. This one really seemed to stop them and interrupt their pattern.

I also would say “Manana” (meaning tomorrow, or not today) before I even got to them…or when they would ask my to look at their wares. Most would just look at me with a blank stare, except the guys trying to sell fishing adventures, they wanted to sign me up tomorrow. Most folks wanted a sale now, the fishing guys were primed for tomorrow. Same with the golf and dinner cruise hawkers.

Next, I tried to say “Si” (Yes) to everyone, smile and keep walking. This confused them as well. I learned this one from a friend of mine years ago. Jerry would get all excited about what folks were trying to hawk him and act like he was going to buy and just keep walking. I never liked him doing it, and here I was trying it myself. I still didn’t like the effect.

I tried ignoring everyone. This worked well…but I was so inside myself in order to do this that I was missing my external world more than I liked. I could see how I could get used to it. I knew many narcissists and a few sociopaths who used this pattern most of the time. It is good to know I can do it and was glad to get back out of that pattern.

Ultimately I came around to a blend of all of them. My unconscious mind seemed to now have many choices on how to deal with it best with each individual. I grew beyond my one possible response, and I discovered the freedom of many responses for many situations.

Towards the end of my stay, I noticed that I was not getting approached as much anymore…not nearly the same. I wondered if it was because the recognized the same gringo playing different games with them each time they approached me and decided to give up.

Or maybe there was a different look I had that they recognized as someone who knew what they wanted and they decided to save their breath. I like to think this is the reason. I do think it is a bit of both.
I want to thank the people in Mexico for helping me to expand who I am and being able to say “No” and “Yes” in many new ways. It cleared something in me similar to what sales did for me.

Now i did buy stuff while there…and a few people had extraodinary way of getting into both Oh Be and myself to say “Yes” and buy when we wanted to say “No.”

I will talk about those lessons in Part two or “No Gracias”

When living in Texas years ago, my good friend Wesley used to say, “It’s a Mexican deal,” about anything that didn’t make much sense or looked dangerous… or even a repair job done poorly. A car with a coat hanger rigged up to hold the door closed? “Mexican deal.” A car painted three different colors? “Mexican deal.”

I’ve seen similar pictures on posts saying “only in Russia…”

I used to feel bad that the Mexican’s were the brunt of everything that Wes deemed poorly done.

A few weeks ago, I was in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico for 17 days. It was business with a little pleasure. Cabo is like wealthy American culture and poor Mexican culture mixed together. I loved it, personally. But every so often, I would run into something that made me think of Wesley.

On the first day, my friend Oh Be and I decided to take to the streets and see what Cabo was all about.
As we were walking, Oh Be stopped me and said be careful. As I looked down, there were four huge bolts meant to hold a light pole sticking out of the ground ready to be tripped over. It was so glaring of something you just wouldn’t see in the United States. If you did, it would be marked with orange barricades to protect people, likely because of insurance and law suits. Oh Be mused to me that the insurance laws must be different here. I agreed and said I had better pay more attention and be responsible for myself more as there aren’t any insurance companies doing it for me to keep from being liable. Then I said it: “It’s a Mexican deal.” Oh Be smiled and asked me what I meant.

Over the 17 days we were there, we saw a lot of things just as bad and some things even worse. I really had to be vigilant depending on where I was in order to ensure I didn’t get hurt. Some places it was just right as rain. Then I would let my guard down somewhat and run into another thing that could be dangerous.

There was this one corner on a nice street that had a small three foot wall and on top of that wall were these steel spikes that look like large steel arrows. If someone was walking too fast and slipped or tripped onto the wall…they would be seriously hurt and impaled. If someone fell on them they would have to be surgically removed from this wall of arrow heads. I thought of a child climbing up… well I won’t continue the thought. It was just crazy! It was a “Mexican deal,” both Oh Be and I said as we laughed together.

Over 17 days we were saying it all the time.

In the United States, I may have complained to someone about all these blatant dangers… but in Mexico… it would do me no good.

I learned a few important lessons from this.

When the onus of responsibility was on me and there was no one to blame or insurance companies to fall back on, I started looking out for myself more knowing there wasn’t anyone to blame but me myself. I liked this. It really felt good. I recognized somewhere in me that it was like life was supposed to be somehow.

I became more present in my body knowing there wasn’t a nanny state to take care of me if i fell or hurt myself. I teach 100% responsibility to my coaching clients, so finding another place where I can learn to take this responsibility back from where I gave it away. It is nice to discover these places and take back my power.

After 17 days we were saying the phrase almost automatically and laughing. I started to understand Wes a bit more. He wasn’t really making fun of Mexican People. He was just noting how they do stuff in Mexico compared to the U.S. Wes and his father had spent a lot of time in Mexico border towns. When Wes and his father said it to each other, there didn’t need to be a big long conversation or a big upset. Once they said it “its a Mexican Deal” they seemed to just let it go with an acceptance that it would be futile to complain or get upset. It’s just the way it is.

I was practicing “Letting go” in a new way…i was practicing “acceptance” in a new way…and so often that it felt good and tickled me inside…it was a relief.

I liked practicing the idea that there was nothing I could do about it. In the US, I seemed to be stuck on fixing it…or getting someone to do something about it. In Mexico there were so many of these things in a city block that I went into overwhelm and transmuted the energy into something much more friendly and something that was now giving me humor for upset…”It’s a Mexican deal.”

As Oh Be and i landed in Phoenix to go through customs (I got caught by a most adorable Beagle trying to smuggle a Gala Apple from A Mexican Costco that originated in the USA..back into the USA), we had to walk about a half a mile around the airport to get back to the exact same gate and exact same plane to catch our connection to Sacramento. We were tired and I was complaining about the long walk and why couldn’t they make it more efficient…Oh Be looked at me with a twinkle in his eye and a smile and said “Its a Mexican Deal.” We both laughed and again the energy was transmuted.

Why not bring it back to the USA? Why not bring it with you everywhere?

PS Oh Be and I love the Mexican people. We made some incredible friends. We love the attitude the people have and the big hearts we found in abundance. I can see myself spending much more time with them in the future.

(Written by Kathy)

Recently, Mark had an unpleasant experience with a freelancer on eLance. It started as a very positive experience, and some revelations came to the freelancer through her exposure to Mark’s material. She had some very real, major breakthroughs.

Shortly thereafter, she began making some poor business decisions. I won’t go into all of the problems that occurred. But I will say that this “business conflict” was a beautiful thing from a spiritual perspective.

I’ve seen Mark go through a lot of intense experiences with people. He’s been exasperated lately, asking, “Why does this keep happening to me?” I support him as best as I can, and I try to point out where he could have done something differently. However, these points are usually quite minor in consideration of the overall scope of a project. So, yes, I agree with his wonderment… why does this happen to Mark?

With the eLance provider, he had some intuitive impressions that the major breakthrough might swing the other way. He’s had enough experience with people doing change work to know that once people step out of the prison of their patterns, they often go right back into the cage and resume their life experience from that perspective. For someone who has been angry, bitter, and unforgiving her entire life, she’ll find the first person at whom to point a judgmental, angry, unforgiving finger.

Fearing Exposure
I’ve noticed that people either love Mark and his work or they despise him and his work.* (see disclaimer below) The ones who despise him are the ones with the most defensive fortification of patterns to protect fragile egos. They seem to have a sense that Mark could easily break through those fortifications and expose what’s really going on underneath.

Spirit moves in interesting ways. And it is always moving in ways to bring you closer to the truth of who you really are underneath your patterns.

The only thing that separates you from your most magnificent self is the patterns that you’ve learned to defend yourself from attack – whether real or imagined.

Some of our patterns are developed to defend ourselves from the attack of being ignored or marginalized… meaning, some people develop patterns to garner as much attention as possible. (An example would be the narcissist.)

These unproductive patterns are what I call your “broken pieces.” I’ve always said that relationships are the place where people come together to heal their broken pieces, but someone’s going to get poked. All relationships and their experiences… whether business, romantic, family, or friendship… have the primary purpose of helping you heal your broken pieces so you can discover the magnificence of who you really are.

This is what ho’oponopono teaches… getting to the “Zero State” where your patterns (or your “data”) can no longer operate.

After working with ho’oponopono for 5 years, and after learning from Mark who has been working with ho’oponopono for 15+ years (amongst other modalities), I can honestly say that I do not believe that using ho’oponopono on everything always generates happiness and rainbows, ESPECIALLY if you’re operating through a perspective of a lot of patterns. Sometimes all ho’oponopono will do is clear one row of patterned defenses, leaving the more painful row of patterned defenses to be exposed.

And sometimes, Spirit will work in ways so that you must experience healing. You cannot do some of this healing intellectually.

What Scares the Pants Off of You Can Save You
This summer, I took the kids to a fire safety class at a local church. One of the firemen put on his fire protective suit, an oxygen mask, the whole regalia. He looked frightening, and a lot of the kids were kind of scared. I loved how they made the youngest, most innocuous fireman get dressed up like the “scary monster fireman.” Then, all of the kids crawled under a blanket (representing smoke) and hugged the big scary monster fireman. I imagined if the kids were in an actual fire, scared beyond belief, and the big scary guy was the one to save them, they might rather hide and risk their lives.

If you’re in a challenging position and something even scarier comes along, that big scary thing might very well be the thing that saves you.

Your “big scary monster fireman” is where you feel victimized. It looks awful, you don’t want to face it, you don’t want to go towards it. But where you are sitting is even more dangerous than what looks scary to you. But you’re the frog in the boiling water. Staying where you are, defended by your patterns, is no longer an option. You must move. And you must move towards the very thing that frightens you the most.

If conflict is showing up in your life lately, you can ask “why me?” Or, you can ask “why not me?” You can act as a healing agent in your life, or in someone else’s life. Perhaps it isn’t that you’ve done something wrong to attract conflict or difficulty. Perhaps you’re in a place to get poked a little, but also help someone heal one of their broken pieces.

You can do so by getting beyond your own triggers and patterns, and you can do so by staying centered in your heart. Love softens the broken pieces, love removes the fortifications, and love gives you the trust and knowingness that no matter how scary or difficult something might look, you’ll always be magnificent on the other side.

* Disclaimer: I don’t purport to say here that everyone who doesn’t get along with Mark now or in the past has issues and the issues are all about them. Sometimes Mark can be very in-your-face and often not very politically correct at all. He says what he means and he means what he says. This can be a great thing if you value honesty in your relationships. It’s an uncomfortable (and even enraging) thing if you value harmony.

I will say, however, that he will admit when he’s wrong. He will always lend a hand to help someone. He has brilliant ideas. And his biggest talent is helping people heal from the patterns that keep them away from knowing real happiness.

Yesterday, there were a number of posts about the increasing number of Americans living in poverty. In fact, the number of Americans living in poverty today is higher than it has ever been.

Many Americans across the United States are living in tent cities while empty, foreclosed homes sit vacant.

We could blame the banks, the government, the wars overseas, Obama, Bush, or even Clinton. It can feel very overwhelming to realize this is happening. It is disempowering to realize that, individually, there is not much we can do to change the broad scope of the economic pain people are feeling.

People are hurting all over the world. I bet there are people in your own community who are suffering. You may be one of them.

Old paradigms and structures are failing. Many of us have made decisions and structured our lives around the paradigms and structures that can no longer support themselves.

It’s apparent that we cannot rely on government or businesses to “take care of us.” We have to take care of each other.

If you are fortunate enough to help someone less fortunate than you, I recommend doing something. It changes your worldview, brings light to another person, and giving opens you to receiving.

This weekend, Kathy and the kids baked goodies for the local soup kitchen. Her rationale was, on the 10th anniversary of 9/11, to refocus herself and the kids away from the disempowering messages in the media reliving the pains of the past. Doing something tangible for someone — right here, right now — will help you feel empowered.

I wrote about this in my book How to Make Someone Feel Like a Million Bucks. If you’d like a copy of this eBook, leave a comment or contact me. In making someone feel like a million bucks, you end up making yourself feel like even more than that. Those good feelings then translate into attracting forces that create more good in your life and in the lives of everyone you inspire.

It is very important to remember not to sacrifice your own self in giving. The good Samaritan continued on his journey to do his business after he stopped to help the injured man. He did not give up his own welfare to help another, but ensured the injured man was cared for.

There is something you can do today — within your means — to help another who is less fortunate.

Imagine if we all did something TODAY that helped someone else out? Could we create a grassroots program to change the economic experiences across the world, one community at a time?

What do you do regularly to help people less fortunate? What can you do today?

I’ve been working for months on a new product: Inside the Trader’s Mind.

I have to admit, when my partner, Brian Latta, first came to me with the idea of a mindset video specific for traders, I wasn’t sure it was a good fit for me. But I listened to him, and I did some research. Brian is a brilliant guy with a firm understanding about how to make money. His expertise in the area of neuroeconomics is well established.

Neuroeconomics is a burgeoning field. It is the study and understanding of how people make decisions and how that drives economic factors. It sounds very scientific and technical, and it is. But that doesn’t mean you can’t learn from it, learn about it, and capitalize on the understandings that have come from its study.

You might think that you’ve got nothing to learn from neuroeconomics or traders. But if you’re interested in making good decisions about money, projects, and investments, these incredibly fascinating fields of study can help you.

Inside the Trader’s Mind can help you.

This may be a product that could change your life, even if you’re not a trader. I’ve blended the scientific research, knowledge and understanding from some of the smartest people in the field of neuroplasticity and neuroeconomics. In this two-DVD set, you’ll gain insights from Dr. John Burton, John Overdurf, Brian Latta, and myself.

If you ARE a trader… you’ll quickly see the power of Inside the Trader’s Mind.

We had a few active traders take a sneak peek at the product. Here’s what one said:

“The progress that I’m seeing with my challenges of high anxiety, self doubt, and victimization in regards to FOREX trading are absolutely remarkable in the space of one week.

I have used both the necker cube video and the inductive space video assiduously, multiple times, many times each day. The “layers of the onion” are peeling … wow! in a way that I did not expect. I know that what is happening is the removal of all obstacles to my success in trading.

These obstacles are not only about only trading or learning the trade plan or concepts of FOREX. They are cutting to heart of the deep problems I have been facing for many years in my whole life as a human being.

I really appreciate your consideration of me as a whole person, not just as a student learning FOREX. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.”

Mark Justin

You can do all the manifestation work you want… but if you’re operating from a place of stress, fear, doubt, or greed… you’re going to make bad decisions.

If you’re making decisions about money from a place of those primal motivators of stress, greed, doubt, or fear, you trigger a part of your mind that works off of adrenaline. That part of your mind is meant to make life-and-death decisions, not rational decisions about money.

Decisions made from this vantage point end up being less than optimal. How much money have you lost by making decisions from a place of stress or anxiety? This fight or flight part of your brain is only interested in what is going on right NOW to save your life. This part of your brain has no access to the higher thinking parts of your mind that deal with the future: your dreams, hopes, and long term success.

Imagine working with these processes to make optimal decisions about your money, your investments, your goals, or even what is the best course for action?

• Can you imagine how much money you might save from this place of mind and body?
• Can you imagine how much more money you might make?
• How much more secure would you feel know you were making decisions from the optimal place in the mind?

Take a look at Inside the Trader’s Mind. The scientific research taking place in the field of neuroeconomics, neuroplasticity, and neuromarketing is fascinating. It will change your life, whether you know it now or not.

This DVD is cutting edge. There will be imitators. But no one will have the depth and breadth of expertise, knowledge, and technology that this DVD brings together.

I heard an amazing, inspiring story of life after death recently. I did a podcast about it, that you can download and listen to.

Download to listen.

I recorded this podcast from Mount Shasta. Here are some pictures of that evening’s sunset.

I hope you enjoy the recording, and I look forward to your feedback.

I am not a guru, and I don’t want to be.

I am a teacher, and I am a healer.

It’s funny, many people will try to put me into the position of a guru, or even something else. When they do it, I am humbly thankful. Then I ask them to rearrange their thinking. Whenever I am in the position of guru, I shatter that image pretty quickly. I like being an iconoclast, for others, and for myself.

Over the years, I have had a bittersweet discovery. Most folks who believe too strongly in one thing are likely to swing back the other way when you least expect it.

The Blow Back of Change
I have had an experience recently when someone opened up to a new experience of the world, an experience full of love, hope, possibilities and miracles. The ho’oponopono experience can be pretty powerful when people begin to forgive others, and even more powerful when they start to forgive themselves.

Because I introduce people to that world, I experience a lot of their blow-back when the pendulum swings the other way. One day I will be the greatest person in their life, and then when the blow-back happens, which it inevitably will, I will be the target of their wrath. This is what Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len calls “the Sh*t hitting the fan!”

In the field of persuasion, it is called oscillation. During oscillation, a person experiences wild swings back and forth, sometimes not so wild, and sometimes the swing takes a day, while other times it takes a year. But oscillation happens, trust me.

I think of myself as a pretty great teacher. I have a lot of fun watching my students and coaching clients understand concepts, and it is a privilege to sit with someone while they experience an opening. It moves me. It gives me hope in mankind. And it encourages me to learn and experience more about change and opening.

As far as a teacher, I consider myself quite adept. I will put myself at the top of the list of people in the world figuring out what blocks folks from moving forward. And I think I am just as good at helping them move forward and getting past those blocks. I have worked hard at learning this, and I have incredible passion every time I work with a client.

But that still doesn’t make me a guru.

Hypocrisy in Self Help
In the self help field, I have encountered an incredible amount of hypocrisy regarding this. Astounding amounts of hypocrisy. Staggering amounts, really.

The hypocrisy is not just in the leaders of the field. The hypocrisy exists also in their followers.

There are a lot of people who put on a beautiful, loving, kind face in public. They say just the right things to “trick” people into believing they are the guru. The secret to the trick is not that they persuade people, but they allow people to believe this and feed the belief. It’s rather hypnotic how it is done.

It is a fallibility of the ego, the old brain, not the new.

The possibility of being exposed as being merely human and not a magical guru after accepting the label is a fear worse than death in these gurus, or maybe a fear just worse than public speaking. People will protect that “good” label to the death.

And the funny thing is, that is the deception, right there. The only thing you will ever really need to really propel you in self-help. Don’t put it on, take it off right away if you have.

I know it feels good to be recognized, even revered. We wait for this experience all of our lives. Things we never heard from mom or dad, or from our bosses or friends, now there is this person who sees good in us.

The trap is in how you take it on. The release from the trap is true humility. Not the type of humility where you feel humiliated. No, I mean the type of humility where we surrender to something larger than ourselves.

The type where the woman who I helped open last month tells me that I should be different as a teacher of ho’oponopono. She stands superior and protected, telling me how I need to exist in her world and interpretation. Who put me there? Did I ask to be there? And what does her judgement say about her? Perhaps more than it says about me. I’m pretty happy with who I am.

And yes, I am an awesome teacher of ho’oponopono amongst many other things. I can help you understand it, use it, and become more open and receptive to it, especially the deeper elements.

But because I am often source of that experience, don’t then cancel it out because I said something that challenges your belief about what a person in my position should say or do.

Lynn Robinson from Vancouver was my coach when I was taking NLP Trainers Training back over a decade ago. She could see my conflict: I was a great teacher but didn’t think myself worthy of that title. She said I was combining the idea that I had to live up to a standard or ideal as a guru before I could teach.

This really resonated. She said, “Mark you are a wonderful teacher when you ‘share’ but not so great when you try to be perfect.” That was all I needed to hear. And it still works today.

It will work for you as well. I have seen it work for so many.

I am a human being doing the best I can to learn and teach these wonderful gifts God has given me. I also know that my ability to be a vessel to “SHARE” what I know with the tools I have learned with you is a Divine gift as well.

I am reminded often of the need for humility.

The greatest heart surgeon in the world cannot operate on his or her own heart. But if someone in my family needs a heart surgeon, I want him!

And I don’t care if he is fat. I don’t care what kind of food he ate for breakfast. I don’t care if he smokes a cigar once in a while. I don’t care if he has a drink after work. And I don’t care if he says some hurtful things, or even if I catch her swearing. And I don’t care what my neighbors or Facebook friends say about him.

If I need to, I will beg on my knees for his help if I need him.

You are the heart surgeon. And you are the one gossiping about them. And you are the one on your knees because you need his services.

What role are you playing? What are you willing to do to get over your judgements?

This is the real work…this is what it all comes down to in my work.

if you haven’t yet got the 6+ hours of teaching/sharing of the Z+ DVD’s you might want to check them out.

They are not just Ho’oponopono…and a matter of fact most of what is in there is what I have learned that works outside of Ho’oponopono. A lot of folks asked me if there was other things they could do with Ho’oponopono and I said yes, lots of things.

So I had a couple of friends film me, and I went to town sharing the best of what I know on these DVDs about what REALLY works. I have gained a lot of experiential knowledge from teaching thousands on stage and hundreds of clients throughout the years.

The woman I coached last month called me crying. She was 63 and has written many new age books and helped others write books that landed them on Oprah. She said nothing had come close to opening her up like the Subliminal Clearing DVDs did for her. She said they changed her life. She admitted that she had made it her secret goal to never be wrong, and to certainly never admit it, and to never say she was sorry. She said she didn’t know how I did it, but she decided to give it a try to play. And when she did, everything changed.

She said she had been praying to God for something…and when she got it, she knew this was her answer.

She – and I – also experienced blow back of the sh*it hitting the fan.

I am humbled by her story and experience. I feel like I was sharing…using the tools I have been given to be available to God for his will.

Why don’t you give it a try and see what happens?

And remember: I am here to share. I am not a Guru. I am human, and I promise I will disappoint you if you let me.