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		<title>By: RevRon</title>
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		<dc:creator>RevRon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 20 Jan 2010 19:24:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great post, Mark. I&#039;ve been involved in a few discussions on this topic recently, as you know, and have seen just the kind of inappropriate, defensive responses to criticism that you describe (and worse!). In far too many instances, requests for information to support unlikely (to put it mildly) claims are responded to with condescending dismissiveness and/or outright attacks upon the critic/questioner&#039;s intelligence or integrity. It&#039;s not difficult to see the fear in such responses, which - of course - serves to further diminish the credibility of the responder. Ironically, the supposed &quot;teachers&quot; who exhibit such behavior seem incapable of comprehending just how much damage they do to their own images by behaving in such an immature manner.

To be honest, I can&#039;t help but chuckle at folks who will actually engage in this manner in a discussion on an easily-accessible online  forum, make complete asses opf themselves, then go back and edit/delete any content that challenges them or that might make them appear less intelligent and/or evolved. Perhaps they think that once their &quot;offerings&quot; are deleted or edited, they no longer exist... talk about heads in the sand! People like this do more to damage their own interests than could any critic, no matter how scathing the criticism or how vitriolic the presentation.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great post, Mark. I&#8217;ve been involved in a few discussions on this topic recently, as you know, and have seen just the kind of inappropriate, defensive responses to criticism that you describe (and worse!). In far too many instances, requests for information to support unlikely (to put it mildly) claims are responded to with condescending dismissiveness and/or outright attacks upon the critic/questioner&#8217;s intelligence or integrity. It&#8217;s not difficult to see the fear in such responses, which &#8211; of course &#8211; serves to further diminish the credibility of the responder. Ironically, the supposed &#8220;teachers&#8221; who exhibit such behavior seem incapable of comprehending just how much damage they do to their own images by behaving in such an immature manner.</p>
<p>To be honest, I can&#8217;t help but chuckle at folks who will actually engage in this manner in a discussion on an easily-accessible online  forum, make complete asses opf themselves, then go back and edit/delete any content that challenges them or that might make them appear less intelligent and/or evolved. Perhaps they think that once their &#8220;offerings&#8221; are deleted or edited, they no longer exist&#8230; talk about heads in the sand! People like this do more to damage their own interests than could any critic, no matter how scathing the criticism or how vitriolic the presentation.</p>
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		<title>By: Mark J Ryan</title>
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		<dc:creator>Mark J Ryan</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Jan 2010 20:16:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Actually, Petra, that image is a stock image photo that was used in order to elicit the unconscious image of erasing and clearing. Neither Joe or I received any remuneration whatsoever from any company for any of the images used in any of the Subliminal Manifestation videos. In fact, we paid a stock photography service in order to use the images.

In terms of the pricing for the DVDs, please keep in mind the intent of the DVDs. They are meant to clear unconscious patterns and beliefs quickly and easily. To do this type of clearing with a therapist would run hundreds or even thousands of dollars. Of course, the DVDs are meant to complement your clearing efforts and are not meant to replace working with a licensed therapist. But when working on yourself, these tools are very helpful towards those clearing goals.

Thank you for your questions. It is important to ask questions before you become upset at a conclusion that you&#039;ve arrived at based on erroneous data.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Actually, Petra, that image is a stock image photo that was used in order to elicit the unconscious image of erasing and clearing. Neither Joe or I received any remuneration whatsoever from any company for any of the images used in any of the Subliminal Manifestation videos. In fact, we paid a stock photography service in order to use the images.</p>
<p>In terms of the pricing for the DVDs, please keep in mind the intent of the DVDs. They are meant to clear unconscious patterns and beliefs quickly and easily. To do this type of clearing with a therapist would run hundreds or even thousands of dollars. Of course, the DVDs are meant to complement your clearing efforts and are not meant to replace working with a licensed therapist. But when working on yourself, these tools are very helpful towards those clearing goals.</p>
<p>Thank you for your questions. It is important to ask questions before you become upset at a conclusion that you&#8217;ve arrived at based on erroneous data.</p>
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		<title>By: Petra Ramon-Kuehne</title>
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		<dc:creator>Petra Ramon-Kuehne</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Jan 2010 19:51:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Mark,
Thank you for your thoughts on criticism.
I agree, if the fear of criticism stops us from being creative that would be rather sad, since criticism allows us to gain a greater perspective of our personal view or understanding.
Here is what I am criticizing and it comes truly from my heart (I had already expressed it in an email earlier.)
Your DVD  &#039;subliminal manifestation ZERO LIMITS&#039; promises to getting clear to our divine purpose using an ancient Hawaiian secret. What a great goal!   But then to watch the DVD and have in the Subliminal Hypnotic Cleansing Immersion  and in the 5 Minute SUPER Cleaning video ads appear for Faber Castell, Pink Pearl a.o.,
ruined the purpose completely. 
I felt upset and offended that you used the hypnotic state of the viewer not to get clear to the divine purpose but to put more &quot;staff&quot;  to clear into their minds. It&#039;s my understanding that you can only have done this for the financial benefits from those companies at the cost of the viewers.
I have got other DVD&#039;s that are really supportive and the price range is between $19 - $25.
I don&#039;t know if you understand my disappointment, but here it is and it is as I said before truly coming from my heart.
I beg for an explanation for my own sanity.

Love and peace,
Petra.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Mark,<br />
Thank you for your thoughts on criticism.<br />
I agree, if the fear of criticism stops us from being creative that would be rather sad, since criticism allows us to gain a greater perspective of our personal view or understanding.<br />
Here is what I am criticizing and it comes truly from my heart (I had already expressed it in an email earlier.)<br />
Your DVD  &#8216;subliminal manifestation ZERO LIMITS&#8217; promises to getting clear to our divine purpose using an ancient Hawaiian secret. What a great goal!   But then to watch the DVD and have in the Subliminal Hypnotic Cleansing Immersion  and in the 5 Minute SUPER Cleaning video ads appear for Faber Castell, Pink Pearl a.o.,<br />
ruined the purpose completely.<br />
I felt upset and offended that you used the hypnotic state of the viewer not to get clear to the divine purpose but to put more &#8220;staff&#8221;  to clear into their minds. It&#8217;s my understanding that you can only have done this for the financial benefits from those companies at the cost of the viewers.<br />
I have got other DVD&#8217;s that are really supportive and the price range is between $19 &#8211; $25.<br />
I don&#8217;t know if you understand my disappointment, but here it is and it is as I said before truly coming from my heart.<br />
I beg for an explanation for my own sanity.</p>
<p>Love and peace,<br />
Petra.</p>
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		<title>By: maureen gillen</title>
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		<dc:creator>maureen gillen</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Jan 2010 10:23:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Mark

I am sooo grateful for this, it is very apropiate for me, 

Thank you

BLESS YOU IN LOVE AND LIGHT

Maureen</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Mark</p>
<p>I am sooo grateful for this, it is very apropiate for me, </p>
<p>Thank you</p>
<p>BLESS YOU IN LOVE AND LIGHT</p>
<p>Maureen</p>
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		<title>By: severina</title>
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		<dc:creator>severina</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Jan 2010 09:58:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I really agree to what u wrote...The problem is the ego and all the memories we carry... in my humble opinion. If I see what is real and what is illusion in the present now, everything is all right. Love, Light and Peace</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I really agree to what u wrote&#8230;The problem is the ego and all the memories we carry&#8230; in my humble opinion. If I see what is real and what is illusion in the present now, everything is all right. Love, Light and Peace</p>
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		<title>By: Nancy Philpott</title>
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		<dc:creator>Nancy Philpott</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Jan 2010 00:01:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Mark, it&#039;s impossible for me to imagine that anyone, who has spent time in your presence, would ever consider  using the term &quot;Hitler of the Internet&quot; to describe you. I concur that the comment is absurdly ridiculous! 

Clearly, the person that wrote that comment never shared a Rolls Royce Mastermind experience with you like I did. It was your authentic, mindful, soulful, presence.. along with your amazing gifts and talent that made that  such a soul stirring experience for me.   What an opportunity to to experience two very different &quot;teachers&quot; with vastly different energy, talent, and presence. 

I thrilled to hear that moving to Mt. Shasta was like coming home for you and your family. I look forward to hearing more about you and the work you share with the world from Mt. Shasta.  I&#039;m truly sorry that this Austin native didn&#039;t follow-up after that amazing experience and spend more time with you when you were here.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mark, it&#8217;s impossible for me to imagine that anyone, who has spent time in your presence, would ever consider  using the term &#8220;Hitler of the Internet&#8221; to describe you. I concur that the comment is absurdly ridiculous! </p>
<p>Clearly, the person that wrote that comment never shared a Rolls Royce Mastermind experience with you like I did. It was your authentic, mindful, soulful, presence.. along with your amazing gifts and talent that made that  such a soul stirring experience for me.   What an opportunity to to experience two very different &#8220;teachers&#8221; with vastly different energy, talent, and presence. </p>
<p>I thrilled to hear that moving to Mt. Shasta was like coming home for you and your family. I look forward to hearing more about you and the work you share with the world from Mt. Shasta.  I&#8217;m truly sorry that this Austin native didn&#8217;t follow-up after that amazing experience and spend more time with you when you were here.</p>
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		<title>By: Fred Black</title>
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		<dc:creator>Fred Black</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Jan 2010 21:37:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Mark;
I got a lot out of this post.  I recently posted an article on my blog about the lack ethics of someone I had engaged as an internet business coach... some of the comments were critical of the fact that I used some strong inferences and they questioned my character, morals, and motives... my motives were simply to warn others... several comments left comments saying they had experienced the same thing with this person.  Still it&#039;s hard to not let a critical comment eat away at you and fire back something not so nice.

I also wanted to leave a comment to your &quot;Ho’oponopono, then and now&quot; post that I&#039;m really looking forward to your book/dvd.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mark;<br />
I got a lot out of this post.  I recently posted an article on my blog about the lack ethics of someone I had engaged as an internet business coach&#8230; some of the comments were critical of the fact that I used some strong inferences and they questioned my character, morals, and motives&#8230; my motives were simply to warn others&#8230; several comments left comments saying they had experienced the same thing with this person.  Still it&#8217;s hard to not let a critical comment eat away at you and fire back something not so nice.</p>
<p>I also wanted to leave a comment to your &#8220;Ho’oponopono, then and now&#8221; post that I&#8217;m really looking forward to your book/dvd.</p>
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		<title>By: Doug</title>
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		<dc:creator>Doug</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Jan 2010 21:26:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Mark;

I&#039;ve dealt with and handled &quot;critics&quot; for years. I have no problem going head to head with some - and at one point found the activity intellectually stimulating. While they would rant and rave - I&#039;d always come back calm and cool with documentation to counter. It worked for a while because I was able to consed valid points they had and came from a point of concern and resolve. 

However, when points I made were backed up with documentation and research, I was met with defensiveness and elevated emotions.  

It was never about me personally - even if they had nothing to respond with but personal attacks. 

Over the last 6 months, I&#039;ve had an awakening of sorts as the critics I had been dealing with got more and more desperate and increasingly foul and hateful. (My guess is out of frustration.)

The entire activity just got too bizarre with nothing but pure emotion the fired and already heated topic. Rational thinking and an activity I thought could help resolve questions and issues for the readership became a spitting match of insults.

So I dropped out.

While I allow critics to continue with the personal insults and dirt digging in an attempt to discredit myself and my company - I actually find my life far more &quot;normal&quot; now. It&#039;s also &quot;moving on&quot; at a faster more promising pace. I attracted many fans through this process and now have a readership and subscription base that are not only very loyal, but hang on my every word. 

Ironic huh?

All because I was able to keep my power from the very beginning and kept the emotion out of a very volatile and heated activity for everyone else. 

The &quot;issues&quot; our critics have had for years may never be resolved. For myself, I&#039;m stronger, much more educated because of my research, and far more confident in my own abilities. 

Thanks for your post. It&#039;s helped me realize why I am were I am right now. 

And that&#039;s grateful for the entire experience.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mark;</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve dealt with and handled &#8220;critics&#8221; for years. I have no problem going head to head with some &#8211; and at one point found the activity intellectually stimulating. While they would rant and rave &#8211; I&#8217;d always come back calm and cool with documentation to counter. It worked for a while because I was able to consed valid points they had and came from a point of concern and resolve. </p>
<p>However, when points I made were backed up with documentation and research, I was met with defensiveness and elevated emotions.  </p>
<p>It was never about me personally &#8211; even if they had nothing to respond with but personal attacks. </p>
<p>Over the last 6 months, I&#8217;ve had an awakening of sorts as the critics I had been dealing with got more and more desperate and increasingly foul and hateful. (My guess is out of frustration.)</p>
<p>The entire activity just got too bizarre with nothing but pure emotion the fired and already heated topic. Rational thinking and an activity I thought could help resolve questions and issues for the readership became a spitting match of insults.</p>
<p>So I dropped out.</p>
<p>While I allow critics to continue with the personal insults and dirt digging in an attempt to discredit myself and my company &#8211; I actually find my life far more &#8220;normal&#8221; now. It&#8217;s also &#8220;moving on&#8221; at a faster more promising pace. I attracted many fans through this process and now have a readership and subscription base that are not only very loyal, but hang on my every word. </p>
<p>Ironic huh?</p>
<p>All because I was able to keep my power from the very beginning and kept the emotion out of a very volatile and heated activity for everyone else. </p>
<p>The &#8220;issues&#8221; our critics have had for years may never be resolved. For myself, I&#8217;m stronger, much more educated because of my research, and far more confident in my own abilities. </p>
<p>Thanks for your post. It&#8217;s helped me realize why I am were I am right now. </p>
<p>And that&#8217;s grateful for the entire experience.</p>
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		<title>By: Steve</title>
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		<dc:creator>Steve</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Jan 2010 21:21:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Just discovered your blog, Mark, and now I have the pleasure of digging back through the postings. My sister and I got to see you and Joe in Austin last year, and I think you provide a nice counterpoint to Joe&#039;s marketing emphasis. And vice-versa. 

I find this posting on criticism grounded and thought provoking. So many online product comments reflect emotional extremes that the person commenting is feeling at the time. Is this really the best selfhelp book ever written? Probably not. Is this really the worst selfhelp book ever written? Probably not. However, the specifics that hook people or turn them off can be really interesting.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Just discovered your blog, Mark, and now I have the pleasure of digging back through the postings. My sister and I got to see you and Joe in Austin last year, and I think you provide a nice counterpoint to Joe&#8217;s marketing emphasis. And vice-versa. </p>
<p>I find this posting on criticism grounded and thought provoking. So many online product comments reflect emotional extremes that the person commenting is feeling at the time. Is this really the best selfhelp book ever written? Probably not. Is this really the worst selfhelp book ever written? Probably not. However, the specifics that hook people or turn them off can be really interesting.</p>
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		<title>By: Ted Pawlikowski</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ted Pawlikowski</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Jan 2010 21:01:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Mark - When I receive criticism that I don&#039;t believe to be either constructive or valuable to me, I say to myself &quot;What you think of  me is none of my business.&quot;  Then I let it go.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mark &#8211; When I receive criticism that I don&#8217;t believe to be either constructive or valuable to me, I say to myself &#8220;What you think of  me is none of my business.&#8221;  Then I let it go.</p>
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